We're married for 12 years, have 2 kids and overall we're quite happy. Just because my wife is always right about the house and kids, does not imply anything how deep our relations are.
In fact I have more time to hack things because I can leave a lot to my wife. That's how successful companies get built
On the other hand, things may be better with your contribution, even if she doesn't agree. Playing second fiddle in order to keep peace is just laying down, not being productive.
In fact I have more time to hack things because I can leave a lot to my wife. That's how successful companies get built