FWIW, I am not white, nor was I rich growing up. My father was an immigrant and a non-native-speaker. I am straight and male, so I've got that at least.
I'm curious just which attributes you think are more equal than others.
I wasn't trying to rank which aspects are more career damaging.
I was pointing out that "we all have our struggles, just be nice to everyone and expect the same" is the most bland of platitudes and seems very dismissive of the real and measurable biases evident in our culture that this kind of thing is trying to address.
Any of the other handicaps or struggles you point out affect people who are not white, straight and male in basically equal numbers. So the comparison is not white/non-white vs average/autistic, it's native american gay women on the spectrum vs white straight male on the spectrum. That's the point. That's why I said you were missing the point.
I admit that I assumed you were a white straight male because you conflated being non-white/gay/female with being handicapped.
I'm curious just which attributes you think are more equal than others.