The best analogy? opium. The only "beneficiaries" are the makers.

So be a maker of great things.

Every one of us can make software the great tool for empowerment and creativity that it was meant to be.

To quote early Apple employee Guy Kawasaki: "Don't kvetch; Kick Butt"

As to what technology wants: Ask Kevin Kelley This is the earlier version of what he wrote:

https://kk.org/thetechnium/what-technology/

But in short (summarized with human intelligence)

Extrapolated, technology wants what life wants:

Increasing efficiency

Increasing opportunity

Increasing emergence

Increasing complexity

Increasing diversity

Increasing specialization

Increasing ubiquity

Increasing freedom

Increasing mutualism

Increasing beauty

Increasing sentience

Increasing structure

Increasing evolvability