I do agree that at some point entrepreneurial "hackers" and established software companies look at things differently, and should engage each other productively in finding the right balance.
tl;dr Hackers could do better at being socially adept.
It really depends how far you can go with redefining a word.
This will be especially difficult because I imagine if you asked 10 HN readers what their personal definition of a "hacker" was you would probably get 10 different definitions.
If you are trying to imply a "hacker" as somebody who is in someway superior to the average software dev then what criteria would you put in place?
What is to stop any kid who read a bunch of PHP tutorials and can put together a simple blog app from calling him/herself a hacker?
If pg were looking to contract out work, he'd say something like http://www.paulgraham.com/gh.html
I do agree that at some point entrepreneurial "hackers" and established software companies look at things differently, and should engage each other productively in finding the right balance.
tl;dr Hackers could do better at being socially adept.