A few months after kiddo was born, partner and I started doing weekly “appreciation”/“retro” session. It’s like a low key date night at home. Fire pit, marshmallows, background music. We start with just appreciation for each other for things over the last week. Then. We move into what went well. And conclude with what could go better, and where we want to concentrate effort. This weekly ritual has been our best way to deal with all the changes.

after the first three sessions, it was clear sleep training was the biggest problem for us, and we had “data” to prove it. That led us to pediatrician appt which led us to Ferber method which worked miracles! for 3 months haha. I anticipate too many night feedings being the next retro focus.